F*ck & Love like it's the Honeymoon

Personal 1:1.

Sex & Intimacy Coaching

Real experience. Real conversations. Real change.

Sexuality isn’t a technique.
It’s not a checklist.
And it’s definitely not the same for everyone.

What I offer is personal, one-to-one guidance, shaped by real life — not theory — and tailored to you.

What we can explore together

Every session is unique, but people often come to me around topics such as:

Female pleasure & orgasm
Awakening desire when it feels blocked, inconsistent, or simply unexplored
Male endurance & presence
Simultaneous orgasm & shared climax
Role play, polarity, and erotic dynamics
Squirting orgasms & deeper bodily response
Anatomy-based understanding of arousal
Sexual communication — how to express needs, give and receive feedback without tension
Strengthening orgasmic capacity
Full-body and expanded orgasms
Moving sexuality beyond the physical — into emotional depth and deeper connection

This is not about chasing performance.
It’s about understanding how your body, your mind, and your relationship actually work together.

Why 1:1 coaching works

Through years of experience, one truth became clear:

There is no universal rule for sexuality.

Sexuality is a unique alchemy of:

personality
emotional history
body chemistry
relationship dynamics
desire, fear, habits, and communication

No video course, checklist, or generic advice can truly meet that complexity.

Real change happens when:

the individual is understood
the relationship dynamic is clear
guidance is tailored, not copied

That’s why I work one-to-one.

What working with me is really like

This is not:

scripted advice
techniques copied from books
surface-level bedroom tricks

What I offer is presence, clarity, and lived experience.

Many people tell me the same thing:

“Just talking with you already changed how I feel about my sexuality.”

From there, we work together to:

understand your specific situation
clarify your desires, goals, and curiosities
explore what you can deepen, expand, or play with more
and, if something is limiting pleasure or connection, gently identify and transform it
create a personal, realistic plan for the coming weeks

Nothing forced.
Nothing artificial.

My approach

Sexuality doesn’t improve through hard work.
It improves through:

awareness
curiosity
trust
enjoyment

With me, the process stays human, relaxed, and often playful — because pleasure responds to joy, not pressure.

Every session is different.
Because every person is different.

Is this for you?

This work is for people who:

want real change, not theory
value honest, open conversation
understand that intimacy is deeply personal

If you’re looking for rigid rules or quick tricks, this probably isn’t for you.

If you’re curious about why your sexuality works the way it does — and how it could feel deeper, freer, and more alive — we’ll likely work very well together.

The journey behind the work

I didn’t start as a sex coach.
I didn’t even understand sexuality at the beginning.

I began knowing almost nothing — beyond the fact that intimacy mattered deeply to me.

I was a young man simply trying to awaken closeness in a relationship where intimacy felt out of reach. At that time, if someone had told me that one day my work would be written about in a book on sexuality — or that my videos would reach billions of views worldwide — I would have laughed. It was far beyond anything I could imagine.

Life took me through very different worlds:
from navigating intimacy without any framework,
to becoming one of the most visible figures in adult media,
to eventually realizing that pure physical pleasure is not the final destination.

What followed wasn’t more intensity — but more depth.

Over time, sexuality revealed itself in layers:
physical, emotional, and something deeper that doesn’t fade with age, novelty, or performance.

That evolution is the foundation of how I work today.

If you’re curious how those experiences shaped my approach, you can explore My Story — or experience it directly in a session.

My Story

From unfulfilled boy to a porn star - and beyond

I’m not a certified sex therapist.
I didn’t learn sexuality from books or formal education.

Everything I share comes from lived experience, developed over many years and many phases of life.

My journey began in my late teenage years, inside a relationship that shaped everything that followed.

I was deeply in love with my girlfriend, yet our sexual connection was almost nonexistent. Over time, she realized — and openly told me — that she was asexual. She loved me, but sexuality simply wasn’t important to her. When intimacy happened, it was only for my sake, not from her desire or pleasure.

For me, that wasn’t intimacy.

Sexuality was never just about release. It was about connection, mutual pleasure, and shared presence. Knowing that my partner wasn’t enjoying herself created distance rather than closeness — and that tension became the real beginning of my work.

The intuitive beginning

Instead of accepting disconnection, I decided to understand sexuality patiently, intuitively, and without pressure.

Back then, I honestly didn’t know much about sexuality at all. I knew there was a book called the Kamasutra — and that was pretty much it. I wasn’t following any method. I simply followed my intuition, paying attention to my partner’s body and emotional responses rather than theory or instruction.

I suggested something simple: once a week, I would give her a long, relaxed massage — with no sexual intention at all. The focus was safety, trust, and pleasure in the body. Music, blindfolds, soft fabrics — creating an environment where her nervous system could relax and open naturally.

For several sessions, nothing “sexual” happened.
And that was the key.

Desire appeared on its own. Curiosity replaced resistance. Her body began responding — not because it had to, but because it felt safe to.

From there, her sexuality unfolded step by step. With time, attention, and trust, pleasure deepened and orgasm became a natural part of our intimacy.

That relationship taught me a fundamental truth:

Sexuality cannot be forced. It can only be invited.

From private discovery to public work

What started privately later became public.

Together, we entered the adult industry and became widely known for a very specific reason: female pleasure and authentic orgasmic experience. Our work reached billions of views worldwide and stood out because it wasn’t only performative — it was grounded in real bodily response and connection.

During that time, I became deeply fascinated by understanding different forms of orgasm, especially in women. One of those areas was the squirting orgasm, which later became one of the things I was publicly associated with and widely known for.

As visibility grew, people stopped seeing my work only as performance.
They started asking questions — real ones.

Questions about orgasm, arousal, desire, communication, confidence, and connection.

Answering those questions openly — first in comments, later in educational videos — became the foundation of what many people today call modern sex education.

When pleasure alone stopped being enough

At a certain point, something shifted.

Through my career, I had experienced a wide range of physical pleasure — different bodies, positions, fantasies, environments, and dynamics. From the outside, it looked like the peak of sexual freedom.

But internally, I noticed something important:
pure physical stimulation has a limit.

When sexuality becomes only physical, it can eventually lose depth. The excitement fades, repetition appears, and even intense pleasure can start feeling incomplete.

That realization naturally led me deeper — first into the emotional layer of sexuality, and later into something even more subtle.

A deeper dimension of sexuality

In my mid-30s, I discovered a completely new dimension of sexual experience.

All the understanding I had developed about bodies, pleasure, arousal, and orgasm was still there — but something changed in how I related to it. Sexuality stopped being something I used and became something I entered.

Without getting abstract or mystical, I can describe it simply:

Sexuality can be experienced not only as a physical sensation, but also as:

emotional resonance
energetic presence
deep attunement between two people

This doesn’t require belief systems or spiritual identities. It’s about awareness, sensitivity, and how attention moves through the body and between partners.

In this phase, sexuality no longer needed constant escalation to stay alive.
It became richer, calmer, deeper — and paradoxically, more exciting.

Why I work 1:1 now

Through all these phases — physical, emotional, and deeper energetic understanding — one truth became undeniable:

There is no universal formula for sexuality.

Each person carries:

their own nervous system
emotional history
body chemistry
conditioning and desire patterns

That’s why generic advice eventually fails.

True change happens only when the individual is understood.

That realization led me away from mass education and toward personal 1:1 coaching, where real transformation can happen — without forcing, without scripts, and without pretending one method fits everyone.

Looking back, I can now see that my understanding of sexuality didn’t grow randomly.
It moved through distinct stages, each with its own challenges, dynamics, and insights.

I didn’t name these stages at the time — the names came much later, once I began working with people and seeing the same patterns repeat again and again.

1. UNLOCK FEMALE PLEASURE

Through all these phases — physical, emotional, and deeper energetic understanding — one truth became undeniable:

There is no universal formula for sexuality.

Each person carries:

their own nervous system
emotional history
body chemistry
conditioning and desire patterns

That’s why generic advice eventually fails.

True change happens only when the individual is understood.

That realization led me away from mass education and toward personal 1:1 coaching, where real transformation can happen — without forcing, without scripts, and without pretending one method fits everyone.

Looking back, I can now see that my understanding of sexuality didn’t grow randomly.
It moved through distinct stages, each with its own challenges, dynamics, and insights.

I didn’t name these stages at the time — the names came much later, once I began working with people and seeing the same patterns repeat again and again.

2. THE HONEYMOON FOREVER PHASE

Once sexuality is unlocked, a new challenge appears.

Desire is alive. Pleasure is present. Connection exists.
And then… time passes.

This is where many couples struggle — not because something is wrong, but because familiarity dulls attention. The body still works, but the spark fades. The excitement softens. Routine creeps in.

Through long-term partnership and professional experience, I learned that lasting erotic vitality doesn’t come from novelty alone — it comes from how attention, polarity, and curiosity are maintained over time.

This phase is about:

keeping sexuality fresh without escalation
staying interested without constant novelty
allowing intimacy to deepen instead of flatten

I call this stage THE HONEYMOON FOREVER PHASE — not because it’s constant excitement, but because it preserves aliveness.

3. ETERNAL PLEASURE

In my mid-30s, a deeper shift happened.

Even with rich physical experiences, strong connection, and variety, I noticed something subtle:
physical sexuality alone has a ceiling.

Not because it’s wrong — but because the body ages, adapts, and eventually becomes familiar territory.

At this stage, sexuality naturally begins asking a different question:

“What remains when stimulation is no longer enough?”

This led me into a more subtle layer of experience — one that doesn’t reject the body, but is no longer limited by it.

Without becoming abstract or spiritualized, this stage is about:

presence instead of stimulation
resonance instead of performance
connection that deepens with time, not fades

Energy doesn’t age.
Attention doesn’t wrinkle.
Pleasure, when rooted beyond the purely physical, can expand instead of decline.

This is why I call this stage ETERNAL PLEASURE.

Not eternal in intensity — but in availability.

Why this matters for my work today

These stages weren’t theory.
They were lived.

And later, when I began working with people 1:1, I saw the same patterns repeating again and again — in different bodies, different relationships, different cultures.

Some people come because they need to unlock.
Some come because they want to revive and sustain.
Some come because they feel something deeper is possible, but don’t know how to approach it.

Understanding where someone is matters far more than offering generic advice.

That’s why my work today is personal, situational, and adaptive — not prescriptive.

Important note

I don’t force anyone into a “higher stage”.
There is no hierarchy, no better or worse.

Each stage has its own beauty — and its own work.

Experience & Background

Over the years, my work has reached a global audience and taken many forms, including:

Over 5 billion views across major adult platforms and more than 2 million subscribers, accumulated through two main channels
Viral educational sex-education videos that reached millions of viewers worldwide
Coverage of our work in the book Juice by Heleen van Royen
Multiple nominations for Pornhub Awards in 2022, 2023, 2024, and 2025
Consistent presence at the top of Pornhub’s most-viewed channel charts, with two channels ranking among the leading positions from 2022 to 2025
Thousands of direct conversations, answers, and personal exchanges around sexuality, intimacy, and pleasure, shared publicly and privately over many years

These experiences are not certifications or titles — they are the result of long-term, visible work with real people, real questions, and real intimacy.

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How it works

My work is simple, personal, and structured

so you always know what to expect.

Step 1: Book an Intro Call (required)

Everyone starts with a 20-minute Zoom Intro Call.

This first conversation allows us to:

meet each other
understand your situation, intentions, and curiosities
feel if working together is the right fit
clarify what a deeper session would focus on

This call is not a test — it’s a tuning moment.

👉 For first-time clients, the Intro Call is required. Please don’t book a longer session without completing this step first.

Step 2: Payment & scheduling

Booking is handled in one smooth flow:

You pay first
After payment, the calendar opens automatically
You choose an available date and time
You receive a confirmation with a Zoom link

Everything happens online, one-to-one, and confidentially.

Step 3: Deep Session (after Intro Call)

If we both feel aligned after the Intro Call, you’ll be invited

to book a 60-minute Deep Session.

This is where we go deeper into:

your sexuality or relationship dynamic
what you want to explore, deepen, or evolve
practical and experiential guidance tailored to you * The Deep Session is available only after the Intro Call *

Rescheduling & refunds

Sessions are paid in advance

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Payments are non-refundable
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You may reschedule once, if something unexpected or urgent comes up

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Please choose your time careful
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This structure keeps the work clear, respectful, and focused.

Camera & privacy

Sessions take place via Zoom.

You’re welcome to join with your camera on.

I personally prefer face-to-face connections.

That said, if you’re not comfortable being on camera for any reason, it’s completely fine to keep your camera off and use audio only. Your comfort and sense of safety come first.

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Book a Session

My work is structured as a two-step process, designed to create clarity, alignment, and depth

Step 1: Intro Call (20 minutes) $120

The Intro Call is required for all first-time clients.

This short session allows us to:

meet and get a first sense of each other
understand your situation, intentions, and curiosities
clarify what a deeper session would focus on

This is where we tune in — calmly and without pressure.

👉 Everyone starts here.